Tuesday, February 19, 2008

this weekend

Stayed out in the 'doahs with friends for the holiday weekend and hike Old Rag in an ice storm. 

and made pizza from scratch for the first time from this recipe: http://www.accidentalhedonist.com/patrick/?title=adventures_in_pizza_or_from_interesting_&more=1&c=1&tb=1&pb=1

Sunday, January 6, 2008

Catching Up

Dec 6, 2007

I’m looking forward to a different Christmas ritual this year. As N and I are becoming a family, it’s been a bit of an endeavor to figure out how to join each of our Christmas traditions. Rather than melding or trading off or trying something new, we have spent the last several years trying to pack it all in, with a trip to Chicago before Christmas, traveling on to Seattle and Spokane on or after Christmas. Christmas day itself is always a little wrenching for each of us. Do we spend the day apart, participating separately in the rituals we have always had with our families? But aren’t we a family now? So does one of us have to give up our Christmas day tradition? Clearly some kind of compromise, something new, is needed here.

We’ve also been feeling increasingly squeamishness about the growing consumerism of the holiday, and the annual struggle of finding some material thing for people whom we love, but have everything they need. Are we spending enough? Are we spending too much? Can we find some more meaningful way of celebrating our love and community?

So we’re trying something new this year. We’re taking all that money we’ve been spending on airfare and gifts each year and directing it instead towards a shared experience with my Mom and stepdad and N’s parents – in France! This is a consensus destination and we’re all looking forward to sharing a house in a small village in Provence, eating great food, drinking great wine, exploring and sharing time together. (Looking forward to seeing my dad in New Zealand in the Spring.)

Dec 24.

It’s beautiful here in Provence. Seeing the vineyards and olive groves, even in winter, I can see what Van Gogh saw here a century and a half ago. We shared the perfect feast for lunch today, bought mostly at farmers market:

  • Fresh baguette
  • Cheese – a wheel of goat cheese rolled in herbs du province, and a rich caramelly gruyere;
  • Fig jam;
  • A bowl of green olives – I think they’re called picholine. Super rich and buttery;
  • Saucisson – salty, fatty cured sausage;
  • Dates;
  • Tangerines;
  • Smoked almonds;
  • And last, but not least, chocolate!

Dec 26.

Christmas in France. We’ve been enjoying spending time with our families, sharing meals, conversation and adventures. New traditions are a work in progress. Can’t help but feel a sense of (self-imposed) pressure and expectation to make this day meaningful.

Traditions unmarked this year: Christmas day without the gift exchange felt a teensy bit, um, compassless. And of course, in France, we don’t have those little tokens that we associate with Christmas, like the Styrofoam Santa, the little knit Santa doorknob decorators that jingle every time you open the door; putting gift bows on the kitties; familiar ornaments that we’ve hung on the tree each year as long as we can remember; visiting with my dad.

Same as ever: spending time together, which is the thing we look forward to more than anything each year; and a special meal.

New things to appreciate: combining families; discovering new places together; enjoying local wine; learning about local Christmas customs (Santa doesn’t some down the chimney here – he climbs a rope through your window; decorations and marketing are significantly more modest here; duck is typical for a Christmas meal); I made a Christmas ornament with my mom out of yarn and a couple of toothpicks.

Dec 31 – Paris.

Today must be national Go To a Museum Day. Lines at Musee d’ orsay snaked through the whole plaza and trailed around the block. We went instead to Musee do quai Branly, a relatively new anthropological museum of African, Asian, and Native American art. Pretty stunning – especially the African art. I haven’t seen anything like it in the U.S.

Jan 2.

First day back at work and I’m celebrating a promotion. I’m now the national policy coordinator for my team. Which means I do more of the work that I have liked over the last year and less of the work that I haven’t liked so much. And I get an office with a door and a window to myself, at least until our organization grows so large that everyone has to share.

Jan 5.

I came across an interesting exercise of reflection on a blog I like - Superhero Journal - the other day.

She challenged her readers to a new years’ ritual to reflect on the previous year to allow us to complete this year and move on to the new year with a greater sense of newness and possibility. Her questions:

1. What do you want to acknowledge yourself for in regard to 2007?
(What did you create? What challenges did you face with courage and strength? What promises did you keep to yourself? What brave choices did you make? What are you proud of?)

2. What is there to grieve about 2007?
(What was disappointing? What was scary? What was hard? What can you forgive yourself for?)

3. What else do you need to say about the year to declare it complete?

The final step is to consider your primary focus for the year to come. What is your primary intention or theme for 2008? Is it the year of joy? the year of self-care? the year of partnership? Stand up and say it proud, "2008 is my year of...."

I have to admit that I don’t like what I came up with when I did this exercise. I have lamely battled bad habits and lacked the discipline to consistently practice good ones. At work I have more often simply gotten through the day rather than seeking opportunities for challenge and growth.

I have given love to my sweetheart, kitties, family and friends, but I didn’t give as much as I could have, and I have neglected and disappointed people I care about by failing to return calls, keep in touch, being irresolute about where we will live, and neglecting Christmas rituals with those with whom I did not spend the holiday.

In general I feel like I have missed opportunities for connection and growth. It may sound like I’m being hard on myself, but I have felt a lot more proud about many other years in the past than I have about this one.

But the blessing of facing this truth and feeling this regret is that I do feel a sense of possibility to change it and dedicate some time to reflect on priorities for the coming year. I know I won’t be perfect, but I can embrace this opportunity for a new beginning and try to rededicate myself with purpose towards greater discipline and courage and effort in hopes of greater growth and connection.

"The world is round and the place which may seem like the end may also be the beginning." -George Baker (quoted from Superhero Journal)

Here’s to 2008!